Talking White

I don't even want to go here, because this issue has been dragged all up and through the dirt so many times in so many venues, however my life begs me to consider it. Yesterday my mom called my job, and my friend said she sounded white...when I later brought this up to my mom, because it was funny to me. She got this really white "thing" in her voice and I could tell that she beamed with pride. Pride???? She went on to tell me how many people over the years have mistaken her for a white woman over the phone, and she said it like this was a good thing. Um...first of all I'm just gone say it. I believe there is a thing called talking "white" and its not necessariy talking in proper english, but there is a definite "difference" between the way that a white person speaks and the way black people speak. I dont believe that one is better than the other, but there are differences in dialect that are obvious. Please dont ask, What is talking white, because we all know what that is.

Now, I have a regular voice and a professional voice, but NEVER is it my goal to sound anything other than what I am, and never would I take pride in someone telling me so. I speak how I speak...mostly correctly, sometimes not. Always real...always me. It really hurt me to have that conversation with my mom last night, because when I offered my opinion that someone making a big deal over your dialect sounding white, is not a compliment, IMO...she FLAT OUT said it was. And argued me down about it, until I realized...this is not my battle. Its just a difference in our P.O.V. Again, I had to be faced with a few life facts:

1) I am not my mother, and thats okay.
2) We dont always have to agree.
3) I get a certain pleasure for opposing her views.
4) Usually cuz her views are just plain WRONG! LOL

My man was in the background talking about how somewhere along the way, she must've gotten a pat on the head so to speak for being able to assimilate into the culture that she found herself in (work)...and now she believes that is good. This is insane!!! The conversation was so long, and so heated that it cant all go here, but what do you think? Is it a compliment for someone to marvel at the fact that you sound um...white?